Woman Worries About Asking for More Money for Her Sister’s Bachelorette

A woman is panicking about covering the cost of her sister’s bachelorette after telling attendees to contribute the wrong amount of money.

The woman explained in a post on Mumsnet that she didn’t include the cost of the bride’s travel to the bachelorette party when initially working out how much attendees would need to pay.

Having previously forgotten to include the cost of taxis and food in the initial price, she said, asking for the bride’s travel expenses will now be the second time she’s changed the price of attending the event.

“They’re all going to hate me, aren’t they?!” she wrote, before adding, “I’ve never been to a weekend hen do and had no idea that it was my job to organize and cost up literally every aspect of the weekend, but apparently in her circle that’s what the organizer does.”

“Everyone is also expected to cover every expense for the bride, which I’m flabbergasted by!!!” she continued.

“I’m a SAHM [stay-at-home mom], so I only have a limited budget, so I can’t afford to pay for her travel myself, but I’m really stressing about asking for the money now as I know everyone is going to be really annoyed,” she wrote.

While responses to the post were divided on whether the attendees should have to cover the cost of the bride’s travel, many agreed that the best solution was for the woman to be upfront about her concerns.

“Sounds stressful, but just send the message, you’ll probably feel better once it’s done and if you can’t afford it yourself, it needs to be sent,” one person commented.

“I don’t think the bride should be paid for, however…if, as the OP says, this is how it’s done in the bride’s circle of friends, then the bride may already have contributed to the costs of 8 previous brides in her group going on their hen dos,” another said. “It would be a bit unfair on her if she were the only one who had to pay for her own.”

“You might have to just take the hit for this one OP [original poster], depending on the people invited & their finances,” one person wrote.

“I have also got a friend’s hen do next weekend and of the 12 people going, I know that at least 4 of them would say no or would say yes but then be unable to attend the weekend as a result of having to pay more money at this late stage,” the same person continued.

“Lots of people budget quite tightly now, there’s no space for unexpected expenses,” they added.