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- A woman wrote on Mumsnet that she feels guilty lying to her friend’s husband about her drinking and vape usage
- She said her friend and her husband are attempting to have a baby but they have suffered numerous miscarriages
- “I’ve been keeping it a secret out of my loyalty towards her,” the woman said
A woman is feeling guilty about being asked to lie to her friend’s husband.
In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said her friend and her spouse are in a “rocky marriage” as they have been trying for a baby but have suffered numerous miscarriages.
The husband, the woman said, wants his wife to quit drinking and vaping to increase their likliehood to conceive, but the woman said her friend is “hiding the fact that she’s doing both from him.”
Recently, the woman said her friend’s vape “fell out of her pocket” and her husband “saw it.” The woman said her friend asked her to lie and say it belonged to her, but she wasn’t onboard with the idea.
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“I tell her firmly, NO, that I feel very uncomfortable doing that, because it means that I am now lying to [her husband], who is also a friend of mine, and he’s told me that he does not want her vaping,” she wrote. “I’ve been keeping it a secret out of my loyalty towards her.”
Continued the woman, “I told her instead that she needs to tell [her husband], sincerely, that this is the last time FOR REAL that she smoked, but she tells me IT’S NOT GOING TO BE.”
Still, despite her decision to not back her friend, the woman said she is now thinking she should’ve. “I told her no, but I am feeling guilty,” she explained. “I feel like I should have just said that the pen was mine, I left at their house so she was carrying it around for me, etc.”
“But a part of me did not want to lie for her anymore,” the woman added.
Other Mumsnet users overwhelmingly felt that the woman had nothing to feel guilty about.
“She’s adult enough to be married, so she is adult enough to take responsibility for her actions,” one wrote.
Another insisted, “Never get involved in other people’s lies.”
Others, meanwhile, questioned why the couple, who had a relationship “full of red flags,” wanted to expand their family when their relationship was not at its strongest.
